Letter To An Ex
To begin this letter we would need to start with forgiveness for the other person and mainly for ourselves.
Many of us, have passed through toxic moments in relationships, wether it is the man or woman that becomes narcissistic as it happens on both sides, let’s not just criticize one.
Sometimes it all begins with an admiration for the way they look at their passions, the dedication that comes into play and it’s what triggers that idea of falling in love, maybe with a vision of something that could be. We also have to take into account the time that someone can last without a relationship that tries to make it work, whatever the cost. It happens fast, until one comes to the realization that it is just causing hurt and damage to each other.
““Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.””
With sharing that, we must thank the other person for showing us and reminding us which parts of our lives are weak, which parts of ourselves need to become stronger. The person that wishes to control does not realizes the role that he/she is giving to the significant other, mirroring each part that he/she hates of himself/herself, which childhood traumas and low self esteem issues that fall within your own family & personal life are triggering you to make him/her solve those problems and as a result, you are only hurting yourself and the other. It also shows the kind of love and respect that has been missing in their own lives.
When living together one person’s mind can be having such a different reality through their own struggles and as a consequence does not give any time or even the proper place for the other person.
“When anger arises, think of the consequences.”
We all deserve a practical life and relationship. That means respect goes both ways, reciprocating in the same manner, then yes, that person will be ideal to share our time, our plans and even our life and goals.
Both end up getting hurt by trying to fill the abandonment, injustice, rejected, humiliation and treason, resentments triggered during our childhood that will affect and human relation until we work on them.
Addictions make us block our thoughts, such as alcohol, work, parties, even exercise and that one is extremely difficult because it also increases the endorphins and they raise your energy level.
I am sure that I loved you with every fiber of my being.
We can easily block our thoughts and get concentrated in anything else, easily making the couplu believe that the relationship rarely passes through your mind, by keeping too busy in your own life and not giving time or spaces to the other person, even though bed can be shared and a place to live.
We should truly hope they can achieve there life dreams.
Sincerely,
Your ex.