How do we choose the people we spend most time with?
Let's begin this with a question. What is your most strongest value as a person? The one you admire the most. And I don't mean that you should develop an ego around that but you will notice that the one you value the most in yourself, is the one you less perceive on others
We blame other people for being who they've always been instead of being accountable for choosing the wrong person.
When you meet a person that shares the same value that you most admire on yourself, let's say it's peacefulness, emotional intelligence or so many more. Unconsciously or consciously that will create a strong connection of security, of trust on both, even emotions. If you are single you might even lift them up and place them on the top shelf as if he or she is the right fit for you.
Is it love this emotion? Do I really know this person? Do I know his or her family? What's his or her last name?
That can trigger spending the night together and even having sexual intercourse when you haven't even met them, that's something that happens many times on this days, specially with dating apps. Those apps aren't well structured or planned as we are basing everything on appearance and that doesn't mean that a connection mentally or spiritually will exist. Even when there might be a connection it won't necessarily mean that you are both meant to be a couple and have a relationship. Let's just start respecting the others for who they are, a human, a person, who has the same rights that you do.
“Be careful while choosing the people in your life. Sometimes they don’t hurt but your own choice does.”
Let's be vulnerable, start sharing your thoughts and beliefs, do not criticize them, let's listen to their opinion and share ours, there is not a wrong or right. It all depends from the perspective you come from, you might connect in ways you never thought could be possible. Been conscious of this should help us in choosing who we want to spend the time with, in choosing our friends as they will also be able to mold you, you don't wanna be spending it with the wrong kind of person.
You might have to even change of circles of friends, even habits like going out every Friday night or weekend, creating a time for yourself & your mind. It's ok when made consciously. The easiest way for switching your habits is to replace the, by something that generates and triggers the same feeling than the last one, if by going out all the weekend it makes you have a sense of satisfaction, you need to start doing something else that brings that same feeling to your life, it all behaves like a cycle.
“Be around people who lift up your mindset, who challenge you, even in the way you think and approach any goal. Be rational.”
